You get what you focus on, so focus on what you want

Good morning.  Wherever you are in the world, I hope you are having a great day.

It’s Sunday here, so that means a day spent together as a family.  I think there’s going to be some much needed work done in the garden, which will be great.  But the best thing about it is that all 6 of us are going to be doing it together.  There will be some laughter, jokes, and just lots of good light hearted fun.

So I was on the good old FB this morning having a scroll through what everyone is sharing & something became clear to me.  Alot of farmers in Western Australia are feeling the pinch right now because of how dry it is.  It’s not a nice feeling being dry especially with crop in the ground or animals to feed.  But we need to be aware of what it is we are thinking.

In my very young life discovery journey, something that has come through oh so clear to me is that you attract what you think, you create your own reality & if you focus on it, it will happen.  So, we as farmers (& people in general) need to concentrate on what we do have, not what we don’t.

I know it’s hard to see sand blowing & the sky being dirty with our topsoils, or hearing the sheep or cows calling & unhappy with the conditions, but there is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING we can do about the lack of rain.  All we can do is look at what we do have & make decisions based on that.

I know it sounds very cut & dry (no pun intended) & I know it seems harder than that in reality.  But the reality is that it isn’t harder than that.  We know as farmers what we need to do to keep those animals in good condition so you can sell them and cover costs & make a profit to keep going.  We know we need to wait a little longer for the plants to get strong before we can spray the next lot of weed control.  We just have to hold on  through this dry spell and have faith.

Have faith in knowing it will rain after this current dry spell.  Have faith & believe in the fact that we will grow food to feed people, not as many this year as past years, but we will still feed many.    If we concentrate on what we don’t have we will keep attracting what we don’t have.  We need to concentrate on what we do have, be grateful for that & work out how we can move forward with what we have.

Sometimes some big decisions need to be made to move forward & they are decisions we don’t like to have to make, but we have options and opportunities, we need to make the most of those. So, instead of focusing on the lack of rain lets focus on the fact that we have family we can spend time with, or we have the ability to make decisions,  we have a roof over our head, clothes for our back & food for our tummies.  Let’s focus on getting organised in the workshop, house, backyard etc, so when the rains do come, we can revel in the relief that simple act will create.

We need to keep moving forward because as soon as we stop moving forward, we start going backwards.  Today is a day for focusing on what we have,  family, love, clouds in the sky, happiness, optimism & opportunity.  Today we are moving forward in our garden, making a lovely little spot for us to sit around our firepit to tell some much needed stories to create memories for our kids to share with their kids to share with their kids & so on.

So have a great day, look forward & towards the positive.  Look at what you want so you can achieve it.

Chat soon

T x

I don’t know what to title this post

I’m a middle child of 3 girls.  Growing up I was always the odd one out and felt as though I didn’t belong.   I can remember being young and thinking about why I was so different to both of my sisters and mum and dad.  I never really questioned it out loud because life was just life and we just did what we did and we didn’t ask those questions.

I hung onto that thought of just going with the flow and not questioning things through my teenage years and into my adult life.  I think through that time I noticed that I was different and eventually came to accept it but I never really understood or celebrated it.  I wouldn’t say that I now do understand it, but what I am starting to do it celebrate my difference.

My difference is what makes me “me”.  No one else has ever been me, lived a day in my life or walked a step in my shoes.  There is no one else in the world like me and I am like no one else in the world either.  And this realisation and full acceptance of the statement has given me peace.  Peace in the knowledge that it is ok to be the person I feel I am meant to be.  Peace in the knowledge that it really doesn’t matter what people think of what I do or think or feel, that’s what makes me “me”.  Peace in reminding myself every day that what someone else thinks of me is none of my business.  Peace in knowing that I am here for a purpose, one which I’m still trying to find out, it will come 😁

I have juse started to do some personal development.  This is something I have not really put any value on in the past as I’ve just gone along with how life is and accepted things.  I was never taught (because the people I was around were never taught) that what I bring is what I bring.  I create my own reality and I can make my life whatever it is I want it to be.  This has been a HUGE discovery for me.

Now don’t get me wrong, my life has been a great one, if I hadn’t done the things I have in my past, I wouldn’t be the person I am today and I am now grateful for all of those experiences.  But to be 42 years old and realise I can do whatever it is that I want to do and make my life whatever it is I want to make it is something I am loving but also struggling with.  I mean, I’ve gone along with living life and now I am trying to learn how to love life and it’s a big change.  To notice the things around me, truly notice them and wonder about them, question them.

Recently I went to a retreat with the lovely Katie & Wendy .  It’s called a sheDance retreat.  I had some of the biggest discoveries in my life over this weekend.  I don’t really know where to start or what to say because it is so profound.

I can look at the sky now and see the blue that it is and know that is the colour it is meant to be, it is there for everyone to see and appreciate.  It is there for me to enjoy and marvel at.

I can see my 2 puppies and know that they come up to me for a pat because they love me and I can feel the love they give and it’s not just about what I can give them.

I can sit here on my verandah and know that because I love the person I am and I can accept the differences I have others will love me and accept those differences as well.  I am there person I was meant to be.

If I take the time to stop, listen and receive the messages my inner self is sending me I will follow through and do the things I am meant to do, because I have all the answers inside of me.  No one can fill the holes I feel I have on the inside. I can hold myself.  I have everything I need.  I am the person I have been waiting for.

I am oh so grateful to Katie and Wendy for holding the safe, sacred, beautiful space they did for myself and other women to go through and experience and discover for ourselves who we really are.  They are such loving, caring and giving women.  Sacred Women’s Work is something we have lost contact with in this world of busy and it’s women like these two that are bringing it back and the world will be forever grateful for this as they spread their words, knowledge and love far and wide.  🙏

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The beautiful Katie and Wendy doing what they are called to do, share the knowledge and love of Sacred Women’s Work

Chat soon

T x

Today is a day for being Grateful

As I sit here on the verandah contemplating all the things I haven’t done today, one thing does stick out in my mind that I have done and that is to be grateful. I sat at my table in my craft room and wrote a few lines of the things I am grateful for.

I have so many things to be grateful for I am overflowing with it all.  I feel oh so blessed to have the life I have and for having the opportunities and choices I do.

I married the man of my dreams. He honours me, respects me and lets me be the person I want to be. He gives me the space to learn the person he knows I can become and together we have been able to have 4 absolutely beautiful children. All this wouldn’t have been possible if it weren’t for my mum and dad and my husbands parents. So here’s a couple of pictures of some of  the people and things that I am oh so grateful for today.

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My awesome husband – Robby

 

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Robby & I on our way to America in January this year (2017)
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All of us – our awesome kids in the car on our way to Perth for our BIG holiday to America January this year (2017)

 

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Love this bunch – the kids making their life size Christmas Tree
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Henry & Banjo our puppies

 

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One of my chickens that lay the eggs we eat every day

There’s so much more I am grateful for. I can’t list them all here right now, but I think the next couple of posts are going to be “grateful related”.  I have been very lucky to have come into contact with some very special women lately & they have had a huge impact in my life, so I’ll share about what they do & how they inspire people.

Thanks for stopping by today.

Chat soon

T x

Food is so much more than just food

Hi thanks so much for stopping by today.

Today I thought I’d  have a chat about something  that is close to my heart….FOOD

My Mum and both of my Nanna’s taught me how to cook from a very young age.  I have created many special memories that are linked to food and there are times I can remember vividly the smell of food cooking or I can visualise one of my nannas homes.

My mum and dad both worked full time when I was young and even though mum was always busy she still found the time to bake cakes, cookies, pasties or the good old sausage roll for us using recipes her mum had handed down to her.  I can remember what it was like as a kid to smell a fresh batch of cornflake cookies or  a yummy chocolate cake baking in the oven on a weekend. If my dad was home, we would always have something scrummy for morning tea on a Sunday and then my big Nanna and Pop would come to visit in the afternoon and there was yet again more yumminess there to nibble on.

I was so lucky to have had the opportunity to learn this skill of home cooking from the women that were in my life at the time.  As my sisters and I grew up, I can remember spending time with them in the kitchen using those same recipes my mums mum had handed down to her, but we were lucky enough to have some of my dads mums recipes too.  I can also remember causing a bit of havoc with empty Twistie packets and the oven  😳

Now, what we cooked was nothing fancy, it was always good home cooked, nutritious, filling, food.  Nothing like the expectations you can feel in the kitchen now.  A casserole was always a hit with my dad and sisters, not so much with me.  But something I have discovered is that most of the foods I hated as a kid I have been able to recreate them to make the same dish but with my twist on them and my kids love them and so do I.

So the wheel has continued and I have taught each of our kids (3 girls and a boy) to cook.  They each have their favourite recipes and I try to get them to explore further because while they are home and I can help guide them they’ll have the confidence to create good home cooked meals and put their own twist on them if they want to.  I’ve given my two eldest a recipe book each which I have written a couple of recipes in and then they have continued by going through my recipe book to create their own very special version of tradition to hand down for generations to come.

I think good simple tasty home cooking is something everyone has the right to learn to cook, whether it be from family, friends, neighbours or school. It goes hand in hand with learning about nutrition.  Kids need to learn simple, easy and yummy ways to cook food that is nutritious, filling, heartwarming and memorable.

So I’ll finish up with sharing with you a recipe I discovered that Jemma (our 18 yo daughter) has taken to be her favourite meal to cook  and she runs rings around me which makes my heart swell with happiness. It’s paella and the recipe is from Curtis Stone.  You can find it here.  And if there left overs they go down a treat the next day warmed up for lunch, but I did say if.

I’d love to hear about your cooking or lack of 😉  Or have you got your kids into the kitchen, do they enjoy cooking, what do they make?

Chat soon

T x